"Don't let that lonely feeling get you."

"Don't let that lonely feeling get you." 

Just a lazy day, resting, watching flyers, listening to music and taking several naps. I question myself sometimes that if I'm not to much on the internet?" My answer is, "Yes and no," hmm, I don't know. What I do know is that I'm less on the internet then several years ago when I was still just living my life at home, with no relationship, no job and no vollunteers work. I had not many people around me, so yeah, the internet was much of a bless then. Ofcource I had a few friends where I went out with, but it wasn't that much. It's different now, though the relationship is over, I still have work, I do vollunteers work, I go out so now and then and I see old residents at the free dinner three times a week. 

When I count the hours I spent on the internet I can say yes, I spent to much time on the internet in my eyes. I have seen people who are daily on the internet, I can't do that, it would drive me nuts. Though I must say that the time flies when your on the net, when you think you spent an hour on the computer your already three hours further. I'm not that worried about it, I know I have a life next to 'being online,' and that's very important, otherwise you might get addicted. Though I get sometimes that lonely feeling, not that weird after being surounded with people for the last three years for almost 24 hours. (Canada/Humanitas) I can blame Facebook, it's nice and fun when I get some attention. 

But I shouldn't make it a habbit, a habbit searching for attention. I think it goes automaticly when I'm to much on Facebook, I'm aware of that. Ofcource I'm not going crazy when no one is commenting on my last status, ofcource I'm not going nuts when no one likes my last photo's, and ofcource I won't burst out in tears when someone is commenting more on other friends statuses then yours statuses. Though I get that lonely feeling sometimes. I don't know why, (Or do I?) that's for me a sign that I'm overwhelming myself with Facebook. Facebook is for fun and to enjoy yourself, to share and conmnect with your friends. Friends? Yes, friends, although we don't see each other, were sharing things.

I have a pretty amount of friends on Facebook, though most of them I never seen in my life or even met. Weird? Yeah, a bit. Are they really friends then? Yes, ermm, yes,  I call them long distance friends. Some of friends are not friends where you for example drink a coffee with daily, or go out with once a week, to bad! Maybe that's why it gives me that lonely feeling, I don't know. That kind of connection what we all need sometimes, we don't see each other eye to eye, no hugging or an arm around you or just a handshak. I don't know, it would be great that I could meet some of these friends one day, well, not all, otherwise I would be 90 and out of money when I would visit the last one, lol. 

I say, Facebook friends should meet one another, even if it was just for once. This afternoon I have been reading an article about how to recognize the signs of an addiction to Facebook, and interesting read. Here are the signs from that article...

You wake up and the first thing you do is "check Facebook". And it's the last thing you do at night.

My answer: Yes, that's me. In the morning a few hours before work, few hours? Eerm, okay one and a half hour then. And in the evening after dinner and dishes, three or four hours, I keep the Facebook page open while I'm surfing the net.

Nothing else thrills you or you feel "empty" without Facebook. All you want to do is spend time on Facebook, even to the exclusion of getting work done that needs to be done, or meeting family obligations. When not being on Facebook causes physical pain, sweats, illness and you're champing at the leash to get back on it, your obsession has become an unhealthy one.

My answer: Sure Facebook can thrill me, but when I have other work to do or have Family obligations, ect, I can shut it down. When I'm not on Facebook, well, then I'm not on Facebook. I don't get phycical pain nor sweaty hands or worser, if I would have that I would do something about it, lol.

You're not able to go for more than a day without using Facebook. If forced to do so, you find yourself suffering from Facebook "withdrawal" symptoms, such as finding nothing else interesting, trying to find ways to get back to Facebook even if it means using a computer that is either out of bounds (for example, not yours), or difficult to get to, or you find yourself intensely worried about missing out on Facebook updates. These are all very unhealthy signs.

My answer: I can spend days without Facebook, but I guess if it takes to long... I don't know. I think I would miss it, missing mostly the connection with long distance friends.  I think it depends on 'why' I'm not spending time on Facebook, for the same reason I'm doing something else what gives me much more satisfaction then Facebook. Though I think it's impossible to not be on Facebook, cause it's everywhere on every computer.

Even if you're not on Facebook constantly (indicating you need a reality check), checking it many times during the day is a sign of compulsive behavior. Spending more than an hour on Facebook a day will easily cut into all the other obligations you have in life and may cause social dysfunction problems.

My Answer: I could easily check on my days off many times Facebook, just to be updated, but I don't do that, and I don't want to do that. I'm mostly aware that I don't want to spend to long on the computer. Besides spending thirty minutes on Facebook is enough for me, read the updates, here and there a few statuses and comments, checking Cityville and done.

Your real life isn't going so well and Facebook presents a fantasy escape life where everything seems unencumbered, neat, happy, and easy all things that are the opposite of your everyday life.

My answer: Oh dear! LOL! Sometimes it is a fantasy escape or can be a fantasy escape, but I won't get to overwhelming with it, like I said, don't burst out in tears when your friends are not commenting on your last status, or get nuts when friends don't 'like' your last photo's.  It's important to have another life nest to Facebook, I have that, but I'm working on it to make it bigger then it already is.

Adequate sleep ceases to be important to you. Instead, you're prepared to stay up way too late just to be able to accommodate your Facebook neediness. After all, you excuse yourself, your friends might think it's remiss of you not to be around!

My Answer: I'm sure some people are facing this... I must admit that I was close to this aswell, not Facebook though, but with chatting on messengers. I had a friend where I spoke daily with, we were almost obsessed with it, one day I had a kind of a argue with that friend, I disliked the argue and I stayed awake thwe whole night. just staring at the ceiling. I learned alot from that time afterwards. The time when I chatted with her was five or six years ago, she was from Finland.

You have tons of friends on Facebook but you still feel very lonely.

My answer: Sometimes I do yes, but I guess it's not because of Facebook, I been trough a lonely time, I crawled up slowly bit by bit. I'm still not there but I'm on the good way. Sure Facebook can give me lonely feelings sometimes, but like I said I won't let it overwhelm me. 

You have faced the book, you have logged out. Dinner is ready the table is done, your hungry. 

My answer: Yesssssss! I'm starving! Oh look! Pasta and little meatballs!