Sunday, March 31, 2013

Easter 2013!

Easter 2013! 

I knew it would be two days of rest with Easter, so, that's why I went out yesterday. So I could rest the following days. This first day of Easter went pretty fast, moving the clock a hour forward helped alot, lol. I spent this Sunday just like a regular Sunday, resting, enjoying being on my own, and one load of laundry. That was it. Oh, and I cooked a nice rice dish, with success. I have been thinking of my Dad aswell today, and ofcource my Mom. It gives a bit of a awkward feeling not having my Mom and Dad around, a bit sad feeling aswell. You feel just a bit more lonier then usual, I guess it's normal on such days like Easter, or Christmas. I know these feelings are just moments, they will disappear as quick as they came. 

Next week I will visit Dad's grave again, it's a bit of a relieved feeling going there, when I miss him I have the option to go there. It's been two months since Dad passed away,  everything passed by so fast these last two months. Dad's passing, the funeral, back to work again, etc, etc. Sometimes I think to myself, 'Is Dad really gone.' It gives a weird feeling that my Dad lays in a coffin under the ground. A bit of a un true feeling, I can't really describe the feeling. It's still fresh, it will get easier and comfier when more time passes. Day's like these bring you back, but further then that, I'm really okay and still relaxed. Dad suffered enough, it's okay, he's happy now.

Tomorrow I will see what I do, Tomorrow is the second day for us to celebrate Easter. A few shops will be open and a few fests will be held, I'm planning to visit a few shops after lunch. I'm planning to buy another painting aswell, I saw a nice one last week, but didn't plan on buying it. In the late afternoon there will be the free dinner again, tomorrow a extra Easter dinner. I have no clue what we get, but I know for sure it will be good. As always! Tuesday work is calling again, you know, I think I would collapse if I  didn't had a job, I'm truly happy with my work! Being at home without a job is surely not healty, and yet I have been there.

Saturday, March 30, 2013

City Deventer today!

City Deventer today! 

Yup, although I was a bit of a doubt of going out today, I decided pretty fast this morning that I will be going out. I putted my clothes on then my shoes, washed and packed my bag and before I knew I was sitting in the train. Today I went to the city of Deventer, last weekend I went to the city Zutphen. When I travel to Zutphen I pass Deventer on my way, Deventer isn't that far. The trip took me not even thirty minutes with the train. Lol, funny thing this morning, just before I went out I had a phone call from Jennifer. (from yesterday's 'visit') She told me that she would like that I come for a visit on the 17th of April, 1:30 pm. Yesterday we both decided that when she wants me for a visit she will call me on a  Saturday, to make a appointment for a visit for the following Wednesday. My visits to Jennifer will always be on a Wednesday, (her choice) and once a month. Alright, back to my little trip.

A little bird area inside the park in Deventer, I have been in Deventer before but never visited the park, didn't even know that this park had a bird area. They even had excotic birds flying around.

Arrived in the park, nice area with here and there a few statues and sculptures. Here you see the sculpture 'Europa and the bull' actually, the bull is Zeus who had a secret crush on her despite being married to Hera...
In a no time I arrived in the city of Deventer. I already kinda knew where to go, or actually where I wanted to go. First of headed to the park, that was near the train station. After the park I came out beside the river 'The Ijssel,' just like I planned. The weather wasn't that cold, atleast not as cold as last weekend, where I almost frozed my fingers of, lol! Though I had some snow here and there, but that was alright. Gosh, snow in March, or perhaps worse, snow with Easter! I sat down on a bench near the river, and ated my self made sandwiches. I didn't sit that long cause it wasn't feeling like Spring or highly Summer, with the Summer this area is packed with sun bathing people. It's nice here! After walking beside the river for a little thirty minutes I turned left towards the centre of the city, just like I had planned. I should have examined Google maps a bit better...
 
The river the Ijssel, I rested here for a short fifteen minutes.


I couldn't come closer, otherwise they would fly away.

 Cause when I turned left I got a bit lost. The city of Deventer has alot of alleys and a few courtyards, you can compare it a bit with last weekends visit to Zutphen. Though Zutphen was better. Deventer is alright, it surely has his beauty aswell and his history. Wikipedia: Deventer has seen few military engagements throughout its long history. The industrial area and harbour were bombed heavily during World War II. The city centre has been largely spared, thus offering a view that has remained largely unchanged for the past few centuries. The female Jewish poet and writer Etty Hillesum lived in Deventer during the war before being deported to Auschwitz. In Schalkhaar, a village only two km northeast of the city centre, barracks were used by the German occupying forces to train Nazi policemen. The compound is now a centre for asylum seekers. 
 
The big Church from Deventer called the 'St. Lebuïnuskerk.' One of the nicest churches I seen by far, it's huge!


I had the privilege to ride one of these awkward bicycles, as you see the pedal's are on the front wheel. Very awkward to ride, though loved to have one, lol.

Deventer has been somewhat popular with the film industry. During the production of the movie A Bridge Too Far all of the scenes taking place in nearby Arnhem were filmed in Deventer, as Arnhem itself had lost its historic center. I got lost a few times, though getting lost wasn't that bad, there's alot to see here. Deventer is like a maze, specially the centre of the city. Lots of old fashion alleys, but aswell funny architecture. Ofcource I took some pictures. The centre, where all the stores were and shops was busy, I avoided that area a bit. I rather go trough old alley's to search for old and awkward buildings or houses. After a long walk trough the centre I took a break at a store, a well known store where you can buy just about anything, and there's a section where you can have a snack and a coffee or other drinks. I took a large coffee and a large cookie. Loved it! 

Charles Dickens painted on a wall in the famous 'Walstraat.'

The 'Walstraat,' look at these nice and cute houses! Loved being there.
On my way back I went trough a small alley called the 'Walstraat.' One of my favorite alley's to walk trough, the alley has old small houses in the style of 'Charles Dickens.' Plus small, cute little stores and Victorian style buildings. It was pretty crowded there, but fun to walk. Once a year (just a few days before Christmas) they are holding there the 'Dickens festival.' Hundreds of residents and others are on the streets dressed up in clothing from the Victorian era. Hundreds of characters from the books by Charles Dickens (1807/1870) are dressed up and act like Scrooge, Oliver Twist, Mr.. Pickwick, Christmas Carol-singers, orphans, drunkards, craftsmen and many other poor and rich people.On this event more than 100,000 people will visit the Walstraat. After walking long enough I decided to go back towards home, I felt tired, legs were hurting and I got hungry, it was all worth it.

Friday, March 29, 2013

My first applicant, Jennifer!

My first applicant, Jennifer! 

Eeek! Today I started my new volunteer job: This volunteer job is a job where I will be visiting people who have little social contacts, people who would like to do something but are not able to do such. These people are mostly elderly people, but aswell people who are handicapped or such. I will visit them, they can fill in their own needs of what they would like to do, that can be anything. A walk, a bicycle ride, a chat or just a coffee, etc, etc. After a rest full morning I made myself ready for my first 'visit.' I was nervous, but aswell excited, so, all good. Jennifer is her name, she is in her fifty's and has blond hair. That's all I knew from her before this day. I visited Jennifer together with the leader of this 'volunteer visit project', she was already waiting on the pavement in front of Jennifer's apartment, yup, Jennifer lives in a flat. She's lives not even ten minutes from my house. Together we knocked on Jennifer's door and we entered her apartment, my first thought of Jennifer? 

A bit shy, not very outgoing and sorry to say, not 100%. Jennifer is sick unfortunately, she lives on medication, I haven't asked her what her sickness is yet. although she mentioned having a sick thyroid, just like me. We actually have one more thing in common, Canada! Jennifer is born in Canada, when she was three years old she moved to Holland. She went back and forth from Holland to Canada until 2003. Now her Mom and Dad live in Holland too, only her brother lives in Canada. Jennifer may seem lonely but is far from that, she visits people, has a boyfriend where she goes out with, goes out for groceries and such. Though she complains that she almost never gets visits, hmm, weird. Anyway, that's where I come in the picture. Jennifer would like to have someone who visits her, we will watch movies or have a chat or paint or play games. I offered first that we could have a walk outside when I visit or go out or have a bicycle ride, but she refused that. 

"I do already such things whit my boyfriend," She told me, okay. 'Inside the house activities' it will be then, I didn't feel that comfy at first at her place, and that didn't change. I was asking myself, "Do I really want this job? Am I really the right person for this?" That feeling went only worse when Jennifer told some about her recently adventures, she really needs her medication, otherwise it goes wrong she told me. Otherwise she will flip or goes crazy, hmm, okay. 


Jennifer told me about the time that she was throwed in a cell by four policemen, cause she flipped out. She once wanted to kill her boyfriend with a knife, she then called the police and they didn't want to take her. Once she stood on her balcony shouting to people saying she was the bride of Jesus, lol. She laughed about it while telling, but I wasn't that amused. On that moment I really thought, "Do I really want this job?" Jennifer is a nice woman, and she's good company but I just didn't know. 

She told us that she felt good, and that everything is normal again. But what if I'm alone with her and she goes crazy? I can't handle that, and that not alone, she not really the kind of person who I like to visit. No offense to Jennifer, but..... I don't know. You know, this visit I had this afternoon made me realized that I really need 'new' people in my life, people where I can go out with or people who I can visit, and important, people who are 'normal.' Again,  no offence towards Jennifer. As you all know, I have lived in a shelter (Humanitas) for more then eight months, after these eight months I got me a apartment and could start with living on my own again, yet, with some help from Humanitas. Ofcource in these eight months at Humanitas I got some 'friends.' too. If I liked it or not, they were around. Even now when I live on my own, 'they' are around. These 'friends' are around with the free dinners during the week time, three times a week.  


These 'friends' are okay, though I rather spend time with people who are a bit more social and not a-social. They are just not my kinda people, there's a world of difference between me and them. These 'friends' are okay to spend time with but just for a quick a hello or sometimes a visit.  You can't really trust them, and they do things what I despise sometimes. Some say, if you spend time to long with such people, you become like them. It's time to change my social life, I thought I would be okay with these 'volunteer visit's' but no. The visits will be okay but I need some extra beside it. Yup, normal people, lol. I can really tell the difference when I'm around my 'friends,' and see other normal people around me at the same time. Im in need of change before I feel a stranger towards 'normal' people, lol! Before I become a a-social aswell, lol. Sorry! Solution? I will continue with the visits to Jennifer, she would like that I come to visit once a month, well I can live with that. 

In the mean time I will search further. Perhaps I should join that club where I had doubts with at first , or perhaps I should walk into that building once again where they had opportunities for starting a group or a cursus. I sent a message this evening to the leader of the 'volunteer visits,' project, I told her what my thoughts were about my visit with her at Jennifer, and how I would like to continue. Well done Sjon! lol, She can help me out aswell wirth my 'search aswell, or maybe give me other opportunities.

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Easter is on his way!

Easter is on his way! 

I have no plans yet, but they will come. I think I will prepair a nice meal with Easter, that will be on upcoming Sunday and Monday. Everyone at work has four days of with Easter, nice! We all will start again on Tuesday, work went well today, busy though, but that felt good. I like when things go my way, ,lol. I like when orders are done on time, though sometimes we have rush hour, lol. Just like today we finished a order right on time, good feeling.

I have been thinking today, do I really eat healthy? I think the only way to find out is to write down what I eat daily, with breakfast, with lunch and with dinner. An hour ago I finished my Easter chocolate egg, it took me three days to finish it. The last part was quit alot, but I finished it in fifteen minutes. I want to challenge myself to not eat chocolate, or candy or other sweet stuff for a month, I'll start today, until the 1st of May, Let's see how that goes. 



Tomorrow should have been my first start for the 'volunteer visits,' a woman named Jennifer would have been the one who I'm gonna visit. I canceled it cause I thought last week I  might had to work a half day extra on the day on the first visit,  but no. I emailed the leading lady from this 'volunteer visit project last week, telling her I might have to work on our first visit. Today I emailed her again, telling that the visit can go trough, sigh. 

Probably I will get a message back tomorrow. Jennifer will be my first applicant and ofcource I'm nervous, lol. But it will go fine I'm sure, this is just something new, I will get used to this new thing. I will have to be there for my applicant, so I guess I have to be brave, and probably outgoing,lol. It will be good for not only Jennifer, but aswell for me. Like I said, maybe tomorrow is our first meeting, it's like a 'getting to know each other' meeting. And no! It's not a date, LOL! Sounds like it but it's not.

 

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Not much to report, all is good!

Not much to report, all is good! 

No news is good news my Mom used to say, hmm, yeah, I guess so. It's been such a gorgeous day today, thanks to the mega load of sunshine on this Wednesday. Just like the last three or four days it shined! Though the hard, rough wind made it cold, otherwise it would have been nice. It's still freezing at night, this will continue for a few weeks so they told. Yeah, way to cold for the time of year. This morning I had my appointment with the therapist, that went pretty well. I know everything about my breathing, that I breath wrong and what it does to me. The theory I know, now I have to learn to breath the right way. The therapist is a nice lady and she really knows her job. I had to lay down again and she shoved a hand under my back, she wanted to examine my breathing. 
 
I'm happy with the plant I bought today, I figured I could buy the plant with the money I got from work last Monday. (Easter gift)

Later on she told me to focus only on her hand on my back. She felt that my back was feeling tensed, 'Try to relax and try to focus completely on my hand on your back," she told me. At first my back felt lightly tensed. It took a while that my breathing went trough my stomach, then my back touched the bench where I was laying on. The therapist noticed it and I did too, "Well done," she said. I noticed the feeling in my back, but I didn't know that she noticed it too. She's an expert, lol. After the appointment the therapist gave me this excersize with me for homework, I have to do the same thing with the hand and my back. Just for a few minutes a day, within two weeks is the next appointment.




Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Well exhausted!

Well exhausted! 

Yeah, I'm almost ready for bed. It's been two busy days at work, did alot and I feel satisfied. Always a good and nice feeling after work.Though looking forward for tomorrow's day off. First I have a appointment in the early morning, 9:40 am it's time for my second visit to the therapist. Breathing therapy. Last Friday was my first session, I discussed with her my problems and she asked me a few things and thought me a few things. Tomorrow I will have to name up four muscle areas or body parts what still feels tensed, (or how you call it) when I'm in a total relaxed position. 

Well, I tried to discover that a few times the last few days, but I couldn't find one. Perhaps my chest, hmm, I don't know. Or when I moved my fingers when I type I hold them in a tight, tensed position. I'm pretty excited about this therapy, I wonder what the therapy will bring tomorrow morning. After the therapy I will do a few grocery and then towards home for my rest. A few naps are on my 'to do' list too. In the late afternoon there's the free dinner, nice. I'm sure tomorrow will fly by fast, yeah sometimes a day is actually nothing, it's over before you know it. Though it's always nice having a day of rest in between.

Monday, March 25, 2013

In need of warmer weather...

In need of warmer weather... 

Hey! What is this?!
Runny nose, here and there a bit sneezing, ugh! I hope I don't get caught up with a cold, I wouldn't be surprised though. The weather is cold, and the wind is blowing quit hard the last three days. Not that much fun on a bicycle, but okay the Winter season will pass too, even though it takes a little longer as usual. Atleast it's not raining or snowing, oh gosh, you saw the terrible snow in England? Oh my! Then we surely may not complain.

Nice and busy day at work, oh gosh! One mat returned and had to be done over, the carpet in the mat needed to be replaced with brushes. I had to remove the carpet, that went quit easy, but then the glue had to be removed. Armed with a hammer and a screwdriver I went to work. It took me almost a half day to remove the glue, but I got it done. Muscle pain much! We had a early Easter present aswell, cause both Bosses will be gone the rest of the week. They will travel to Poland for business.

Our present was a nice, small Easter brunch with presents. We all could order a certain kinda sandwisch and after that we got our presents. A chocolate egg, nicely decorated, a sugar bread, and a little envelope with 20 bucks! Nice!! Our Bosses do that so now and then, give little surprises. Well, little? It's nice and I like it, I'm blessed with my job. I really hope still to work there for another ten or twenty years. I have positive thoughts about it.

Sunday, March 24, 2013

Dating?

Dating? 

It came to my mind today that I perhaps should start dating, I'm not saying 'dating again,' cause I actually never started with dating. I'm the kinda person who always thinks, when it happens, it happens. If it happens then it's meant to be! I still think that's the right way for me. When I think of my relationship with Saf, I must say that it was good for me. I learned from this relationship, perhaps now it's time to apply for what I have learned, lol. Otherwise I might forget what I all have learned, lol. These thoughts are just thoughts, I know. But yeah, I'm still thinking about it. 

There are special kinda journey's for single travelers aswell in Holland, it's the same company where I travelled with to France, Berlin and London. 'Single Journey's,' they are called. These Journey's go everywhere and ofcource everyone is single, thinking about it. It's not even a bad or wrong thought. I will see.It's not that I'm un-happy as a single, I'm happy single at the moment. And my thoughts always will remain the same about dating, if or when it happens, it happens, it's really the best way. I'm not going to search for a date, it's way to much work and it feels like such a obligation. I will just let it happen when it happens, or let God decide or lead my way. 

It's all good! This Sunday was good and relaxed, such relaxing days fly by. Not doing that much and still the time flies, I ironed a bit, cooked a bit and that was actually it. The Sun bursted out of the sky, though it was so cold outside. A hard streaming wind blew trough the sky, my house felt nice and warm, thanks to the sun. It's been a nice though cold weekend, tomorow starts the week again. Working two days, then Wednesday of as usual. Then Thursday working and then it's weekend again.

Saturday, March 23, 2013

Very cold day!

Very cold day! 

It hasn't been this cold since 23 March 1916 in Holland, in 1916 it was 1,1 degrees (Cecilius) Today it was 2,3 degrees. (Celsius) Last year on this date it was 19 degrees (Celsius) Oh how I wish it was 19 degrees today, lol. Though the low temperature didn't stop me from going out today, oh no! Once I have the going out on my mind, I'm going! The cold wind blew hard, though it was dry, no rain, and a sunny sky. I left my villa at 9:30 am towards the train station, the train towards Zutphen left around 10:00 am. The train took a little hour towards Zutphen, it all went pretty fast.Here and there I felt a bit sleepy, but knew aswell that that would pass. 

The Walburgis Church in Zutphen.
I been in Zutphen a few times, but these times were short. Mostly I spent my time in Zutphen on the train station, waiting for the next train. Thanks to Google maps and Wikipedia I made a little walking route, not a exactly walking route, but just to know where I have to go, or  what I would like to see or what there is to see. First to the river, that wasn't even ten minutes from the train station. After passing the river side my plan was to go round the centre of Zutphen, do a short grocery and then hit the centre of Zutphen. I knew already where the grocery store was and I knew aswell I would pass lots of alley's and courtyards. 

Many awkward shope aswell in Zutphen, though you have to search for them.
 After taking a few pictures I longed for gloves, damn, the freezing wind made my fingers feel like sticks. Ouch! I needed to go to a store where I can warm myself up, I found the grocery store pretty easy, thanks to Google maps yesterday, lol. The store was the same store as in my city, only it was a extra large one. The grocery store is called Albert Hein, one of my favorite stores. Every city in Holland has a Albert Hein,maybe even a few. The Albert Hein in Zutphen was huge and very cozy, I loved it. I grabbed what I needed and warmed my hands on a cup tea, I talked to a elderly man who helped me out with my cuppa. 

A statue next to the Walburgis Church.
We sat, and we talked for a short time. I enjoyed my time in Zutphen, I didn't shop that much though. I rather like to explore the place, looking for sight seeings, avoiding a bit the crowd. It was busy in Zutphen, although the cold I saw many people enjoyning the Saturday. I took a few breaks to warm myself up, it surely was needed. I ordered a coffee in a store, and I nearly could reach my coins with my cold fingers, they were almost passed out. After a little five hours I thought it's been good and I returned to the train station, heading home. Tired, hungry and pretty much satisfied. I had a good time, it was all worth it! 

Time to go home, here am I waiting for the train towards Almelo. I have taken alot more pictures, you can see them on my Facebook page.
You know, I really would like to do such things once a month, once a month grab the train and explore a city in Holland, a city (or village, or just a place) where I never had been before. It's nice being out, to see things, see people and just enjoy yourself. No hasty things, just everything on time. I hope the weather will change as soon as possible, I rather go out on a day with a pleasant tempature then a cold windy freezing day, lol. Tomorrow I will rest, do absolutly nothing, yeah eating and sleeping and hanging around. That's what Sundays are for, right? Recharging for the Monday.

Friday, March 22, 2013

"Jennifer."

"Jennifer." 

I had a few phone calls today, the first one was from Humanitas. It was for  the 'volunteer visits'  I'm gonna do, 'they' found someone who needs a friendly visitor. Again a reminder: This volunteer job is a job where I will be visiting people who have little social contacts, people who would like to do something  but are not able to do such. These people are mostly elderly people, but aswell people who are handicapped or such. I will visit them, they can fill in their own needs of what they would like to do, that can be anything. A walk, a bicycle ride, a chat or just a coffee, etc, etc. I will be doing the visits with a group of other volunteers, everyone has their own applicant It's not that we go to the person with the whole group, lol.  

My applicant's name  is Jennifer, I don't know much about Jeniffer yet. Though I only know that she's 51 and lives near.Almost walking distance. Next week Friday I will probably meet her, I said probably cause I might have to work a extra half day. Yeah, it's getting busier at work. Anyway, back to Jennifer. She will be my first applicant and ofcource I'm nervous, lol. But it will go fine I'm sure, this is just something new, I will get used to this new thing. I will have to be there for my applicant, so I guess I have to be brave, lol. It will be good for not only Jennifer, but aswell for me. Like I said, next week Friday is our first meeting, it's like a 'getting to know each other' meeting. And no! It's not a date, LOL! Sounds like it but it's not. Another reminder: The volunteer visits regularly the applicant.  

 Volunteer and applicant discus with each other which activities they will undertake weekly or monthly. It is therefore important that both people have similar interests.  The activities can be almost just anything, shopping together, walking, cycling, watching movies, fishing, visiting museums, drink a coffee, help with homework and perhaps give lessons. The second phone call I received was from a counselor who I visited just two day after my Dad passed away, yeah, I was confussed then, didn't know what actually to do, or what's next. Aswell anxious for the following days. The counselor told that I was way to early for searching for counseling, it was a day before my Dad's funeral, yeah, that was way to early. The counselor told me then that she will call me within six weeks.

 And today she called for a appointment. The third of April I will have my appointment with the same counselor, yeah, I figured why not? I mean I'm still okay and feel relaxed, but, who knows, maybe she can give some tips or advice. It was a nice and relaxing day, although I didn't do much the day flew by. Groceries are mostly done, tomorrow I will do the rest. Tomorrow I will be out aswell, I decided to go to the city Zutphen. Only a little hour with the train from my city, it's gonna be a cold day tomorrow. Cold streaming wind and temperatures below zero, they forspelled a bit of snow aswell. I don't mind, when I decide to go out I go out, lol. Dress warm! 


Thursday, March 21, 2013

Yep, the weekend has started!

Yep, the weekend has started! 

It's been busy at work, it's a good thing. It's better then having not much to do, it gives a relief aswell. This work I see as my work until I retire, so, all good. Though my second Boss asked me thirty minutes before our working shift if I could work tomorrow aswell, I told him, "No, I'm sorry." I got other things to do and I wasn't expecting it. If he would have asked me yesterday I probably would have said yes, probably. I have my thoughts about it, lol, like, 'maybe I should have said yes,' or 'was it okay to say no, to refuse?' Ofcource it is, but yeah. But! The weekend has started, Monday I will be back and do my best again. 

Tomorrow I will do some groceries and have some rest. Saturday I will be out, it's about time again to take of to another city. I haven't decided yet though what city I'm going to. Will it be Amersfoort? Or will it be Zutphen? Amersfoort is a nice city and lays near Amsterdam, it's not even 30 minutes from Amsterdam. The train will take me to Amersfoort in a little hour, Zutphen is nice to, though a bit closer to home. Amersfoort is bigger and has alot of sight seeings, Zutphen is smaller but has his sight seeings aswell. Zutphen is cheaper with the train, Oh well I will just see and decide tomorrow, I'm sure what ever I decide, it's gonna be fun.

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

First day of Spring!

First day of Spring! 


It sure doesn't look like Spring yet but, that will come, every season has a beginning and a ending. I don't mind the cold that much, it's the rain that I dislike. They for spelled rain this week, though I haven't seen any yet, so, all good. This morning was cold, I had a appointment with the therapist, the therapy is for my breathing. I don't breath the right way, I breath more trough my chest instead then trough my stomach, and that can give a certain kind of hyperventilation. I'm not worried about my hyperventilation, slightly more relieved to be honest. For many years I thought my 'chest breathing' was a matter of my thyroid disease. Sure a sick thyroid can give less energy, but so does my 'chest breathing,' aka hyperventilation.

How did it all happen? Long story, I guess I developed it myself, after being diagnosed with my sick thyroid it all started. I have been trough alot and that can give sometimes worries or nerves, some people call it stress. Although I never felt stressed, stress was a to big word for me. Stress is for me 'over the top, or 'totally freaking out' or 'losing all grip of life'. I never had that. Sure, I have seen some counselors, but then again, who hasn't? Ofcource the highly breathing wasn't constantly, I sure had my 'good breathing' moments aswell. But, I did it for so long, I decided it has to stop, lol. It's been long enough, it only gets worse, so here's to the healing! My therapist knew her job well, she heared me out and in the end I had to lay down on a, uhm, it looked like a massage table. 

While I layed there we talked further and she asked me a few things. In the meanwhile she looked and examend my breathing. I noticed that, so I tried to breath like I normally do. She knew what I was talking about, it's nice and good to know that we were on one level with my problems. She gave me some home work aswell. When I'm sitting relaxed on my couch, I'll have to name up four things on my body what feels tense, or how do you say that, tight? For example, do I make a fist? Or do I tighten my face or neck? eEc, etc. Interesting, I knew what she meant, when a body part/muscle  feels tighten or pressured, I'll have to let it go. I know all about it, but to do it and learn it is the second part, lol. I', pretty sure this is going to help me, if not? Then on to the next one, it's all good. 

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Not much to say on this Tuesday.

Not much to say on this Tuesday. 

Just a nice day at work, just like yesterday. Though after two days of hard work I need a day of rest, I think I just did a bit to much. Enthusiasm, lol! My muscles are hurting a bit but that will be over tomorrow in the morning, it was all worth it. Tomorrow early up aswell, I think I will get up at 7:00 or 7:30. I have to be at the therapy at 9:15, when I leave my house at 8:55, I will be fine. Funny that I have to bring my passport with me, oh well, I will just see what happens tomorrow. 

Talking about my passport, I wanted to lay my passport ready this morning for tomorrow morning. But, I couldn't find it!! My passport wasn't laying on the same spot where it always layed. I searched ansd searched where it could be, but no. I even thought about to buy a new one while searching, but no, cause the old passport will probably all of a sudden show up again, when I bought a new one. I thought, 'where did I used my pass' last time for then?' Oh, it's in the binder, yes! And there it was, Tidy your stuff up Sjon!

Monday, March 18, 2013

A very nice Monday.

A very nice Monday. 

I felt exhausted after work but it was so much worth it, I worked a whole day on my own section, and I will be working there the rest of the week, yay! It's busy and that's a good thing. We worked on a huge mat today, with round holes in it and a weird shape, love it! The mat had red and black colors, pretty nice mat. Further there is not much to report, lol. After work there was the free dinner, had a very nice meal from straight out of the oven, mashed potatoes with leek and ground beef. I had two plates, I guess I was hungry, lol.

It's 9:42 pm, soon I will be heading to bed, a early sleep is always good, Early to bed and early to rise. I still get up way to early for work, but I like it, it's okay. I enjoy my days, and will get my rest. This week is pretty calm and relaxing. Wednesday at 9:15 am I will be heading to the 'breathing therapy,' I actually look forward to it. I hope they gonna solve my breathing. I can move and do the things I want but the sometimes pressure on my chest is annoying, and makes me tired. But not for long, cheers to the therapy! Yay!

Sunday, March 17, 2013

S-s-s-s-Sunday!


Interesting video from YouTube, 'How to be alone,' I actually heard from this before. I think it was my counselor who said, 'It's okay to be alone,' in the video you see many options what you can do when your alone. The video shows you aswell that someone alone can be happy aswell. When you achieve that comfort feeling of being alone, you will feel better and realize that it's really 'okay to be alone' sometimes. Just to get rid of that 'lonely' feeling, you will have to feel first comfortable with being alone. Then you will see and feel, that it's okay to be alone. So there!

Uhm, no! I don't feel lonely, I'm fine and okay, I feel good. I think everyone has sometimes that lonely feeling, right? Even people who have tons of friends feel sometimes lonely. Sometimes people who have tons of friends are begging for some time alone, lol. I think I'm in the middle, I like being on my own, but I like it aswell to be surrounded by people. It comforts me that I can be on my own sometimes, cause I know that it won't be long that I will be surrounded by people again soon. For example, today I was on my own, perfect and all good, tomorrow work will be waiting. 

It's important to socialize, everyone needs it. Don't lock yourself up, go out and explore. There are some new things comning up for me, the volunteer visits will do me good, seeing other people and socialize is good. And doing something nice for others gives a good vibe aswell, right? As you know Sundays are rest days for moi, just like today. Did one small load of laundry and cleaned the house a bit. Cooked some couscous with veggies and that's it. I'm looking forward to tomorrow's work, seeing my fellow workers again and doing our thing what we do best, lol. 


Saturday, March 16, 2013

"A Saturday well spent."

"A Saturday well spent."

Early up and early out the door this morning, ready to go to Hengelo. Hengelo is the city where the training and introduction lesson will be held for my new volunteer job, the training started at 10:00 am. I left my apartment at 8:30 am, took the train from Almelo to Hengelo from 9:00 and arrived in Hengelo at 9:05. Then the bus from 9:27 towards 'Oude Bornese weg.' (A certain street in Hengelo) The bus driver took his time, lol, but I was nicely and perfectly on time. Half of the group was already in the building, and some were outside for a smoke. I went outside and introduced myself halfly. It felt a bit awkward cause most of the new volunteers have seen each other already last night, last night was the first introduction. I didn't go last night, being that late at night on the streets kept me from not  going. I told my 'reason' from not going last night aswell to a few volunteers, they laughed and told me that they could have picked me up, cause they live in the same city as I do. Yeah well, if I only should have known that last night, right? The group of new volunteers were a nice bunch of people, mostly were all women, just one guy. 

The guy was happy to see me, he told me. He felt alone among all these women, lol. We laughed. The whole training and introduction was interesting, I learned alot, some of the things I didn't even know off. There's alot I should know before I visit someone with little social contacts, it will sure be not easy, though I kinda thought it was. "Norms and values," and "Know your own limits." It's not like that I'm just gonna visit a person just like that, oh no! The volunteer visitors have to know a few things before visiting. That's why this training. The volunteer visits regularly the applicant. Volunteer and applicant discus with each other which activities they will undertake weekly or monthly. It is therefore important that both people have similar interests. The activities can be almost just anything, shopping together, walking, cycling, watching movies, fishing, visiting museums, drink a coffee, help with homework and perhaps give lessons. The visits are important for the applicant, just to get the applicant out of her or his social isolation, the applicant sees the visitor as a distraction.

The applicant tries to get a structure in her or his life, or social contacts, meeting people. What I learned this day is that it sure won't be easy to visit such people. These applicants have probably been trough alot, or suffering still from something what they went trough. You have to let "it" go when you leave thew applicant, shut it off. I will have to know my limits aswell, if the applicant ask me for money, I will have to say. "No." If the applicant ask me to go to do something for him what he doesn't dare, I will have to know my limits. Probably it's better to go with him then go alone, the applicant has to get out of his or her social isolation, not me. There are many, many examples more, or other (bad) situations I can sum up, but let's not.  I will visit the applicant, I will be there for him or her for a certain time, but I have to think of myself aswell, (limits!) If there's a problem with the applicant what bothers me, doesn't matter what situation, if it bothers me I can always contact the coordinator of this project. And that's a good thing. After the introduction and training I had some light doubts...

But I'm going for it. I will just see how it goes and I will give a 100%, though when I feel that it's not really my thing I will quit. First of all I'm excited, it's a TOTALLY new thing I would like to try, I'm actually looking for social contacts still aswell, and here I am, visiting people with little social contacts, lol. A bit awkward, but I feel aswell that it can be good for me and aswell for the applicant.After the training I got offered a ride home, I took it. There were two ladies who live in my city aswell, friendly and nice women, the driver set me of almost by my  front door.  We all switched phone numbers and email adresses, we will see each other soon again, for the next meeting, once in six weeks we will meet again with our group volunteers. Just to see how things go and if there's something what bothers us we can tell it there then. All will be good, cheers to the new volunteer job! 

Friday, March 15, 2013

Friday's are nice!

Friday's are nice! 

Remember the mail I received last weekend from Humanitas? The mail was a invite for a training or introduction lesson for my new volunteer job, here's a reminder: The volunteer job is a job where I will be visiting people who have little social contacts, people who would like to do something  but are not able to do such. These people are mostly elderly people, but aswell people who are handicapped or such. I will visit them, they can fill in their own needs of what they would like to do, that can be anything. A walk, a bicycle ride, a chat or just a coffee, etc, etc. I will be doing the visits with a group of other volunteers, everyone has their own visitor. It's not that we go to the person with the whole group, lol. 
This group of people are all 'new' volunteers and aswell 'new' to these visits, just like me.


So today and tomorrow is the time of the introductions lessons, starting tomorrow at 10:00 am until 4:00 pm. The lesson on Friday from 7:00 pm until 10:00 pm, I cancelled. I informed the head trainer about my cancelling last Monday. Reason? Well, I don't like to be late at night on the streets in this area, specially the train stations. Sure, I could have gone, but I just don't feel safe then, actually I wasn't very looking forward to go to this evening aswell. Just the fact that it's not that safe here in this area or neighborhood. If I would have gone... I would have taken first  the train at 6:00 pm, then I would have arrived arrived in the city Hengelo around 6:15, then the city bus would have taken me to a unknown area called 'the achterhoek', then out of the bus and walk to a certain street called 'Oude Bornerse weg....'

And then look for house/building number 85. The trip back would have probably worried me the most, lol. Leaving at 10:00 pm, the same route back as the way I went. First the bus back to the train station from Hengelo, (No clue what time the bus comes and goes) then taking the train from Hengelo to Almelo, waiting for the train on that station late at night isn't a pleasure. Arriving in my own city, probably around 11:30 or maybe even later, I will walk back to my own apartment. You can compare our train station with the train station from Hengelo, not a pleasure being there that late. Maybe I'm over reacting, maybe I'm just acting like a pussy but, better to be safe then not. It's not anymore like it used to was nowadays, when you can walk in the middle of the night on the streets... 

And perhaps talk to a stranger and have a great time. It seems those times are over, you here the craziest things lately. But anyway, I got a mail back from the trainer and she told me that it was okay and that I could skip the Friday and just come Saturday. The Friday was actually a 'getting to know each other' evening. A evening to get to know each new volunteer from our new group. It would have been fun if it ain't were late in the evening. Bummer, but okay I will see them tomorrow and introduce myself then, I'm excited to go, to see other people and the lesson is interesting. The lessons will learn us how to get along with people, how to behave, or how to act or how not to act. It will come in handy when we visit our visitors. The lesson tomorrow will take me a whole day but that's okay, early up aswell. 

A nice day it was today, still cold and freezing, we even had some snow again in the late afternoon. I did my groceries in two parts today, because tomorrow I won't have time. I use to dislike the weekends, cause I was so addicted to my new job, lol. I only wanted the weekend to be over as soon as possible, so I could work again on Monday. Now, I like the weekends, it just depends on what there is to do I guess. Though I like having my rest aswell, or having a 'quiet on my own time,' lol. Those times are nice but it's a must to get out too, to meet other people or explore what's going on outside. I do such things aswell, and more of those things are coming up. I wish Spring would hurry up, it's much more a pleasure to go out in the sun and warmth. So, roll on Spring!




Thursday, March 14, 2013

"Awkward?"

"Awkward?" 

Nice day at work today, after working for two days on a different section I worked today on my own section. So much better, though busier and a tiny bit heavier, but okay, I like it so much better. On my own section I have the feeling more that I really make something, produce something, a mat! We start at the beginning, the size, the material, etc, etc. And in the end we roll up the mat, pack it in and done. We even may sign it, well, not on the mat itself but on the cart from the customer. `Made by S. Veldhuis. Nice right? I love my section, but being placed on another section does not bother me that much, I am glad I have work, I am surely not gonna complain. All is good at work, I am happy with my job. 

It has been more then a month when my Dad passed away, when I am at work or when I am out doing things, I am not much thinking of it. Now writing about it feels a bit awkward, seeing my Dad on the picture in my living room  feels awkward too. Why? Just the fact that I am relaxed  about it now, calm and not feel torn apart. That feels awkward, why am I not feeling torn apart, not have these crying moods, although I feel sometimes a tear come up when I or others mention my Dad. I loved him so much, he loved me so much too, though we may not always have showed it, deep inside we felt it. 


Dad and I were not much of a talkers, we did not use or needed many words. When I was a kid my Mom and Dad were not used to hugging and kissing and all that kinda loving towards each other, that changed when I lived on my own, lol, I remember my first hug from another person who I knew. It felt a bit weird and uncomfortable but good aswell. Back to my Dad, yeah, I feel okay and calm, though I sometimes ask myself why am I not in tears daily or why am I not torn apart, cause there was I actually afraid of. Dad perhaps did not want me to see me sad I guess. 

In my eyes he is not gone, yeah gone from where he used to was, where he lived. I know I can not visit him anymore, (that gives sometimes a weird and uncomfortable feeling aswell) I am aware of that. Though, I know he is watching me from above, with behind him my Mom. I know it is all good there above, that might give that calm and relaxed feeling I have. I am actually pretty sure about that, everywhere I go or what I do, they are there. Guardian angels, perhaps stirring me and making me aware that I make the right decisions.


Wednesday, March 13, 2013

"That went okay."

"That went okay." 

This morning was suppose to be hectic but, that went okay. One appointment, a visit and a few groceries. First I picked up the 'therapist' card (what still had to be printed, but okay.) and asked for another card for the mindful training what I (might)  follow. This other card I didn't get cause first I had to make another appointment whit my Doctor first for that card, another sigh. This mindfulcursus needs to have a 'agreement' from my Doctor. I thought, "But I haven't even said 'yes' to the minfulness training. I told the Doctor assistance to let it be for now, I will first have my appointment with the mindfulness trainer. I was perfectly on time at my 'mindfulness' appointment, it was 9:45 I still had fifteen minutes left, all good. 

My city has some nice statues, you only have to find them.
 A lady called me in her office fifteen minutes past ten, she introduced herself and told me about the training. She asked me to tell about myself aswell, and why I would like to follow this mindfulness training. I had alot to tell, I told her aswell about my time in Canada and the time I became homeless. Aswell I told about my Dad, and my sick thyroid. The lady told me that she totally understood that I worry sometimes, worry about becoming homeless again, worrying about having less money to come around. I guess I'm still adjusting having a home again and having a permanent job, though there's no need to worry, though I still do so now and then. But much less then let's say one year ago, oh yes. 

Such a cold day today, we had snow in the afternoon. As you can see the ice on the pond weren't much fun for the birds.
 Now about the mindfulness cursus. The lady offered me another training, a training about "positive thinking." Twisting a negative thought into a positive thought, there's  actually more, but that's difficult to explain. I skipped the mindfulness training, cause that training was more into meditation and finding your rest again, uhm, yeah, lol. The mindfulness can give me rest but doesn't work much on my problem. This positive thinking training does that.  Though I will be put on a waiting list, perhaps in May I can start. Another though, though these trainings sure aren't free, the lady told me that this positive training (6 lessons) will cost 600 Euro, hello? My health insurance will pay for that. 
Stting there, waiting for the other ducks.
Well, actually, in this case, I pay half and my insurance pay half. Because our goverment decided two years ago that they take 350 Euro from your loan/income, that amount of money has to be spent on every healthcare what is not covered by your health insurance. Yup, sure not everything is free when it comes to healthcare here in Holland. When the 350 Euro has been spent then the health insurance will cover most of the healthcare again. This disicion by our goverment is called "Own risk." Small example: The mindfulness training cost 600 Euro, I have still 338 Euro left from my "Own risk." I pay the 338 Euro, but I still have to pay 262 Euro to get to 600 Euro, that money will be payed by my healt insurance.

This used to be a old facrtory hence the huge pipe, they left the pipe but underneath the pipe is a fancy restaurant.
 (You still there?) Because I just spend all my "Own risk" money. (338 Euro) For the same reason I had 25 Euro cent "Own risk," then my healt insurance would have payed 599 Euro. Confussing right? Now, I will just see what I do, first of all I'm gonna start with the 'breathing therapy. Upcoming Friday I will introduce myself at the therapy, they will make a appointment with me and I'll start. First I will ask if this therapy will cost me, if it does then I'm not sure if I start with the mindfulness training. Both things will cost me to much then, and besides the breathing therapy is more important. Yeah, money, money is sure important nowadays, who said money doesn't make people happy? It surely does me. 

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Lots to do tomorrow!

Lots to do tomorrow! 

I think tomorrow will be a short day off, there's lots to do, alot to arrange. On a good side my tire is still full with air, it's magic, I just don't have any other word for it. I pumped up my tire last Sunday around 3:00 pm, and it's still full with air. I pumped up my tire aswell on last Friday, but the air went almost totally out on Sunday. Magic, I'm sure, or the air in the tire has just frozen, lol. Anyway, that's all good. First thing tomorrow morning I will have to pick up my card for the psychotherapy my Doctor arranged for me last Friday. 

The therapy is for my breathing, I breath trough my chest to much, and that's not good. That gives the pressure on my chest aswell. With the card I can make a appointment with the therapist, in the same building as where my Doctor is, handy! Though after I pick up 'that' card I will have to ask my Doctor for another card, cause I need that 'other' card for another appointment at 10:00. At 10:00 am I have a appointmentet with a lady from Dimence, she will be giving the training/cursus 'Mindfullness,' rememember I wrote about that a week ago? This training/cursus felt right when I red about it.... 

"Mindfulness is a way of paying attention to, and seeing clearly whatever is happening in our lives.  It will not eliminate life's pressures, but it can help us respond to them in a calmer manner that benefits our heart, head, and body. It helps us recognise and step away from habitual, often unconscious emotional and physiological reactions to everyday events. It provides us with a scientifically researched approach to cultivating clarity, insight, and understanding. Practicing mindfulness allows us to be fully present in our life and work, and improve our quality of life"

Tomorrow as I said I will have a appointment at 10:00 with the lady who gives this training/cursus, we will talk and see if this training/cursus will be any good for me. It's kinda like a introduction session, uhm, yeah. She will give more information about mindfulness, and I will see if it's any good for me. I will have to take a few things with me to the appointmend. My passport, a so called 'agree' card from my Doctor, or how you call such card? Plus my health insurance card. My Doctor has to agree that I can join this training/cursus. 

And my health insurance card is (I think/hope)  to see if I can get this training/cursus for free. It depends what kinda insurance I have. I really hope I get the  ppsychotherapy for free too, it all depends on my health insurance. If I have to pay, I'm gonna look for other options, cauze I bet that such things are expensive. I will see and hear it all tomorrow. So yeah, busy morning ahead, cycling from A to B, and from B to A, and in between perhaps a few groceries. I'm out of bread, I think I eat 3 loafs of bread in seven days.  Alot? Naah, I like bread. Tomorrow afternoon I will take it easy and rest. 

Monday, March 11, 2013

Lazy Monday.

Lazy Monday. 

I woke up early, an hour earlier then my cellphone alarm. My alarm was set on 5:15am, I woke up at 4:15am. Fact, I usually wake up around this hour when I have to go to work.I wish it was different, lol. Another fact, I always set my alarm on my cellphone when I have to get up early, though I always ways wake up before it goes off, always, lol. But anyway, I always survived the long days, so that's a plus point. Though this morning was dragging, actually the whole day was. I felt sleepy and tired, I guess the last three days off were a bit to much. Specially yesterday was hectic. Talking about yesterday, I was prepared with my new bicycle pump early in the morning, devastated and ready for a perhaps flat tire. 

But no, my tire from my bicycle was stone hard, I pumped it up yesterday afternoon, and it was still pumped up. Good! Let's see how long it lasts, after work the tire was still hard, good! I will check again tomorrow early in the morning. Work went well today, though three fellow workers were sick, wow, a record, three workers in a row sick. Blame the weird weather were having, last week almost 17 degrees, with lots of sunshine, now we have snow, plus minus temperatures. No wonder people get sick. I haven't been sick yet this year, and last year even, knocking on wood! I'm ready for warm weather people, I'm ready for Spring, or better, Sumner!

Sunday, March 10, 2013

The bicycle pump!

The bicycle pump!

A flat tire! And that on a Sunday, well, I noticed already something last Friday, my rear tire from my bicycle was soft, softer then usual. I was on my way to my Doctor's appointment. After the appointment I tried to figure out what to do, it was Friday so I actually had two days to let this soft tire be repaired. If I will let it repair I will loose my bicycle for one day, if I hand it in I can pick it up tomorrow. But what if my tire isn't flat, but just soft? Maybe it just needs some air? Decisions, decisions! I couldn't hand my bike in the next day (Saturday), cause then I can pick up my bicycle on Monday in the afternoon. Monday I need my bike early in the morning, for work. I decided to pump up both tires at the repairer, just fingers crossed that the air stayed in, lol.

Saturday morning, I checked my tire just before I went to my Aunt and Uncle. The tire was pretty hard still but it felt a bit awkward, did some air went out or not? I forgot to check it again later that Saturday, I wish I head. Not until Sunday around noon I checked and yeah, flat, well pretty much flat, lol. Damn, all registers open! It was Sunday, all stores are closed. Thinking, my tire was pumped up last Friday, it's Sunday now, so that means that when I pump it up again, it will last 'let's say' for one and a half day. I need as pump! I went to Facebook and asked a friend who lived near, no answer. I Googled for some stores who could be open in Almelo on this Sunday. My luck, a garden centre near my house was open, they are only open on Sunday's once a month.

This garden centre has sometimes these awkward sells, so I figured they sure have a bicycle pump, ofcource! I walked, it wasn't even a fifteen minute walk, though trough the snow was tough. It was pretty crowded there in the garden centre, but, but, but, yep, no pump! What the.....! I turned around and walked out of the store, I decided to walk to Ina, a friend of mine, she definitely has a pump, oh yeah! Another twenty minute walk, I thought, What am I doing? LOL! Ina had a pump, she even had two pumps. I took the small one, but not before I had a coffee with Ina, it was needed, lol. On my way home I hoped the pump would work, but it did not, damn, damn you pump! ''No worries, lol I am laughing while I write this!'' When I was with Ina she told me that there were more stores open this Sunday. 

The best (classic) Dutch bicycle pump there is!
I did not even think, I went on my bicycle, with a soft but not flat tire, and went to the stores what were open. Another fifteen minute ride! I leaned a bit forward to ease the rear tire a bit while cycling, yeah, I am handy like that, lol.Cold and a hard wind didn't stop me, I was on a mission, never mind the Sunday rest! Though I longed for it, but, couldn't I fix my tire not by myself? Yes, and no, yes I can, but no, cause I know myself that at this moment I won't succeed. I went to the store where I planned to go, I saw a nice bicycle pump, for not that much money. Such a pump is always handy, I should have bought it right away when I bought my bicycle. I pumped up the soft tire and drove home, this time faster cause the tire wasn't soft anymore. Hopefully the air stays in the tire until Wednesday... 

Then I will get a brand new tire. This tire has been flat already two or three times. two times in one month. Before going to bed I will check my tire again, just out of curious, to see if it went soft again. Tomorrow morning I will probably have to pump the tire up. In worst case I will take the pump with me to work, in a even worse case, 'when the tire is flat and a pump doesn't help,' I will walk to work, yikes, pretty far but it is to do. But let's not look ahead to far, lol. I trust on my pump, this pump is the best. A old classic one, but a good one. And for now, rest, my bum on the couch, legs on the couch and flat. Time for a nap, it was a pretty good Sunday, different but good.