Today I decided to go to Nijverdal, my old hometown, my parents hometown. I visited my Mom and Dad's grave and walked around in the centre of the village. I ended up with buying the last part of my groceries. Such a nice weather today, though at first a strong cold wind. The sun made it all good. I felt like going today cause I have been thinking of my Dad the last two days, I thought, 'let's make this coming Saturday a special day for Dad, and ofcource Mom.' And so I did. Going back to Nijverdal gave me a relaxed and calm feeling, aswell a save feeling. First of all because I grew most of my life up here, together with Mom and Dad. So, being there gives aswell that remembrance feeling and also it gives me alot of memories, good memories but aswell bad or sad memories, ofcource. Life isn't always a party, it's ups and downs.
Still at the backside of the new train station, here you see one of the many bicycle stands. And as you can see, lovely weather! There is a bu station aswell. |
I needed the plants for Mom and Dad's grave, just like I had planned. I went to another store and bought two plants and two wooden buckets. The plants I bought were oxeye daisy's, they looked strong and firm, perfect for cooler nights. It frozed a bit last night, so yeah. The plants and wooden buckets were a bit pricey but, it's more then worth it. I continued my trip to the cemetery, walking in the centre I had this safe feeling around me. Nijverdal is a calm and down to earth village, it seems there's never no crime here, no bad things or violent behaviour. It would be frontpage news if something bad would happen here. The people are nice and friendly, it seems everyone knows each other. I grew up here, My Dad grew up here aswell, my Mom grew up in Wierden, 5 km from Nijverdal. I lived for a while in Wierden to, but mostly I lived here in Nijverdal.
The centre or square point of the city Nijverdal, usually it's packed here, but I think it was still early. |
3 comments:
Thank you for sharing the photo of your patents tombstones (that's what we Americans call them). You are doing so well. Don't feel guilty for calming down. You will always grieve, but it does get easier.
I assume that is your mother's maiden name (her father's last name). Did she use your father's name when they married, or keep hers? I don't know the tradition there, if you dont mind me asking!.
Anisah
You can ask me anything Anisah. Yes, Westerink was my Mother's real last name, the name came from her parents. My Dad's last name is Veldhuis. When my Mom and Dad married they took of my Dad's last name, Veldhuis. It's a kind of a old tradition yes, but I don't know why they took my Dad's last name and not my Mom's last name.
Yes, the grieving will always be there, just now it's going off and on, and I except that, it's normal behaviour. In the near future it will get easier. I'm not worried about it.
Taking the man's last name is a tradition here too, although a few women don't. I didn't take Ibi's dad's name, and won't if I remarry.
Hugs!
Anisah
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